Folsom · Rancho Cordova · California Telehealth
Therapy for moms who can't stop yelling and don't know why.
Mom rage therapy with Amanda McBee, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), is counseling for mothers whose anger lands bigger than the moment, offered in person in Rancho Cordova and by telehealth across California.
Mom rage rarely shows up where moms feel safe to talk about it. The yelling lands at home, with the people you most do not want to hurt, and afterward you are left feeling exhausted and second-guessing yourself. I work with mothers in Folsom, Rancho Cordova, and across California who recognize themselves in the rage and want to understand what it is signaling rather than just managing it away.
It is a no-pressure conversation to see if we are a good fit.
The rage is information, not a verdict.
What mom rage actually is
Mom rage is the name many mothers now use for a specific kind of anger that arrives quickly, lands disproportionate to the moment, and lives mostly in the rooms where you spend the most time. It often follows a long stretch of carrying without much room to set anything down. It often shows up around bedtime, around the second or third small request after a long day, around a partner's misread of what you needed. You tend to feel it in your body well before you can think your way around it.
Many of the moms I work with describe the rage as a signal more than a flaw. It signals that the carrying has become structural, that the nervous system has been activated for a long time, and that the person inside the role has been left without a place to go. We can hold it as a signal worth listening to without letting it become the whole story of who you are, and therapy can work with both.
What we do in the work
The work does not start with a plan to stop the rage on a deadline. It starts with looking at what the rage is responding to, including the daily load, the patterns from your own family of origin, the relationship dynamics around parenting, and the version of you that exists outside the role. Naming what is actually happening tends to change the relationship to the rage before any specific technique does.
When more structured tools will help the work, I bring them in. I draw on cognitive behavioral therapy, EMDR for trauma-rooted material, schema therapy for long-running patterns, and a person-centered baseline. The therapy is conversational by default and adapts to the person I am working with.
Common questions
Common questions about mom rage.
What is mom rage?
Mom rage is the name many mothers use for a specific kind of anger that arrives quickly, lands bigger than the moment, and tends to show up at home with the people you most do not want to hurt. It often follows a long stretch of carrying without much room to set anything down. It is not a flaw in you, it is usually a signal that the load has become structural and the person inside the role needs somewhere to go.
Is mom rage a real thing?
Mom rage is not a clinical diagnosis. It is a term many mothers and therapists have started using to describe a specific kind of anger that shows up in caregiving roles, particularly under sustained load. Naming it does not pathologize you. It tends to make it easier to look at what is happening underneath.
Will therapy make the rage stop?
Therapy is not a guarantee that the rage will disappear on a deadline. The work is about understanding what the rage is responding to and changing the relationship between you and it. Many of the moms I work with notice that the rage shifts as the underlying load and patterns get attended to.
What if I'm afraid of my anger around my kids?
Fear of your own anger is one of the most common reasons moms come into the work. We move at a pace that lets the fear be named without rushing past it. If at any point the conversation touches on safety, we talk about that directly and route to the right level of support together.
Can we meet online?
Yes. I see clients in person at my office in Rancho Cordova and via telehealth across California.
Do you take insurance?
I am out-of-network with insurance. I provide superbills you can submit to your insurance company for possible reimbursement, depending on your plan's out-of-network mental health benefits.
Practical details
In person
11121 Sun Center Drive, Suite F1, Rancho Cordova, CA 95670.
Telehealth
Available to clients located anywhere in California, by secure video.
Service area
Sacramento Metro East, including Folsom, Rancho Cordova, Roseville, El Dorado Hills, and Cameron Park for in-person sessions. California-wide by video.
Fees
$170 per 50-minute session. A limited number of sliding-scale spots are available, please ask.
Take the first step
Let's look at what is underneath the rage.
The first conversation is fifteen minutes, free, and no paperwork. We talk about what is going on for you and whether we are a good fit.
(916) 337-8714 · amanda@amandamcbee.com